Are you prepared for your ultimate journey? Having my recent NDE, has put my life in a brand new perspective. I understand this can be a difficult discussion to have. However you don’t want to leave your family with the challenges that arise if you do not have all your final preparations completed. Putting things off because they are uncomfortable will create more uncomfortableness for family. I know people who haven’t prepared and I’ve seen the effects it has. I waited a little too long myself but two years ago I FINALLY decided to prepare myself. I need to look over my information and MIGHT need to make a change to one particular aspect of my of my own preparations.
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This is too important to keep putting off. If you haven’t begun this process I implore everyone to get started. Go to your public library and research how to begin. I believe some states don’t require a lawyer. Regardless, I recommend using a lawyer. That way you will know all your “I’s” are dotted and all your “T’s” are crossed.
Do you have a living will? This is also an important decision to make. What kind of care would you like to have if you suffer a catastrophe? A living will will go a long way to helping you and your medical personal decide what kind of care you would like.
Getting these things done sooner rather than later will help everyone. If you haven’t begun this process, start now.
Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.
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Chris
Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying. For there truly is no end.
Martha J Orlando
You are so right about this, Chris. As I’m watching Danny go through taking care of his mother’s estate, I’m glad she had her ducks in a row. We do have a will, but not a living one, which we need to procure. No, people don’t like to discuss this or even think about it, but doing so saves so much time and stress for the loved ones we leave behind.
Blessings!
Roy A Ackerman, PhD, EA
Here is the first of about 6 (in a row) posts describing how one needs to prepared- for NDE- and when that first letter is missing!
https://www.adjuvancy.com/wordpress/older-losing-hair/
Jason J Marchi
Great topic Chris. I have never understood why some people avoid planning for their death, and this planning includes preparing the proper legal documents: Last Will & Testament (with a designated executor or executrix), Living Will, Durable Power of Attorney, AND Transfer-on-Death designations for all investment accounts (which automatically bypass the Probate process). The WORST thing one can do as one grows older and owns property or has investments of any kind is to die intestate. Die without a Will and the court decides how your estate will be divided by the existing rule of law at the time of your death in the State you resided in. A Will supersedes those legal distribution rules and allows YOU decide where your money and property will go upon your demise. The executor’s legal responsibility is to fulfill the wishes of that Will. The Will is your voice from beyond the grave and a document every adult should have.
EVERYONE dies from this moral life. Everyone, and yet so many I have spoken to fear the subject. We must all be prepared mentally for death from the moment we are old enough to truly understand life. I have also learned that if we cannot face and embrace death then we never truly live … we just run away and hide in fear.
Laugh, love, enjoy, create, play, grow (and have your papers in order) in preparation for the day you will no longer do these things as a person on Earth.
Lynette
It’s such a gift to our loved ones left behind to do all of this in advance. Then they can just be in their grief without all of the busy work that accompanies an unplanned death.
I took death doula training out in San Diego a month or so ago. We talked about the process of dying in detail, but also a lot about how to prepare. Yes, administrative tasks like this and also a kind of life review in advance. It was fascinating to hear the stories of people who’d healed lifelong rifts in the weeks or months before dying. So much better to do that in advance rather than hoping your grieving people will happen onto a (good) medium to do that repair work.
The legacy work was lovely as was the how-do-you-want-to-die stuff. Making it very clear before we go or even before it even appears we’re going to go is a blessing. If I’d even thought about my husband dying it would have saved me thousands of $$ on just the funeral. Same with my father, whose refusal to do any pre-planning was ridiculous but fueled by fear. (If I plan my funeral, I might die! YES, daddy, we’re all going to, lol.) But that ended up costing tens of thousands of $$ more than it would have if everything had been in order.
It isn’t all $$ of course. Just peace of mind for the people left behind. And no hassle. It’s bad enough to be grieving. To have to do paperwork and make decisions at such a time is awful.
Great post. Thanks for the reminder. I have a will and advance directive, but both need updating.