Parents can’t choose the mates of their children or the behavior of their children. You actually can’t choose anything for your children without disempowering them.




Your family of origin, your genetic family ALWAYS has the best of intentions for you when they attempt to guide you.  However, more often than not their guidance pulls you away from your heart, from your true reason for incarnating.  Your genetic family has to learn to let go.  They have to let you do what is best for you.  As I’ve maintained here at Wisdom and Life from this blog’s inception:
EVERYONE eventually finds their way if you let them be.


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Look it at this way:
What if someone attempted to tell you as an adult what they think you should be doing and pushed you in a direction you knew wasn’t right for you?


What if someone told you No!  You can’t be with him or her when you were of an age where you could clearly decide for yourself?


Now I understand that children need guidance.  I’m not condoning letting them run wild.  What I am saying is this:
Give them the freedom they need to make their own way.  If they have a desire to pursue something that you feel is a mistake, stand back and let them go.  And remember:
Sometimes, you may be influencing your child to do something for financial gain because you’re concerned for their future.  My belief is just the opposite.  You should be influencing your children to be happy, to be joyful.


Isn’t it more appropriate to love what you’re doing and make a little less money than be making money hand over fist and be miserable?  And missing out on all life has to offer?


What a powerful word to use here.  By attempting to choose the life for your children, that’s EXACTLY what you are doing:
Disempowering them.


Children need to learn from their challenges and by not letting them make errors in judgement, by shielding them, you are in the end doing them a disservice.  And they know better than you do what they want to do.  If they are brought up in a family where they feel intimidated to speak their mind, they won’t.  And they will wind up letting someone else make their decisions for them, thus disempowering them yet again.  Parents need to step away and let their children fly.  It’s truly the only way our children will make their way in the world.


If you attempt to tell your children who they can be intimate with and who they can’t, you’ll also run the same risk of alienating them.  Is that what you really want?  Love happens in many ways and takes many forms.  You can no more tell someone who to love than you can tell them what career to choose.


Maybe someone who attempts to guide their children is REALLY trying to live vicariously.  In other words, perhaps what the parents are guiding their children toward is something they themselves wanted to do when they were young.  The cycle has to break somewhere, otherwise children and adults will continually be unhappy.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

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