I’ve been without my car for a week now. It’s in hospital being repaired. Thankfully I live within walking distance of just about anywhere downtown.  Sometimes I need to go beyond downtown.  Take Friday for example:
I wound up having to see a doctor outside of walking distance.  I was fortunate to have a friend right downtown and he offered to bring me to my doctor just five miles down the road and even return to bring me back.


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In that case I didn’t find it difficult to ask, because I didn’t have to ask.  I know you may think that’s splitting hairs.  I have a more difficult time being the one to ask for help. I’d rather do everything on my own. I don’t like feeling like a burden to anyone. After having lived alone for much of the past twenty years I’ve become adept at doing everything on my own.


If this car challenge had happened in the middle of spring or summer I would have been perfectly capable of surviving. Alas with darkness falling a little after 4pm  it makes it quite challenging to walk home after work. I like walking home in the dark even less than I like asking for a ride.  That’s where my difficulty lies. The fact that I have to ask for a ride home after having my car for so long is not easy for me.  Even before I drove I found it uncomfortable to rely on others.


Just out of curiosity, I Googled:
INFP asking for help

After realizing that I AM an INFP. And I found a whole host of information.  Seems that that type certainly has a hard time asking for help when they need it. A couple of sites I stumbled across suggested that when an INFP tells a friend they were in trouble previously their friend gets upset that they didn’t ask for help.


This sounds JUST LIKE ME!  I’ve had that exact thing happen time and again. I’d rather offer help than ask for it.  It’s something I have to constantly work on.  All my friends tell me so.  Is that an INFP trait?


I know other people have this same issue.  I just find it fascinating that so many INFPs have this in their realm.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


2 thoughts on “Asking for Help

  1. Martha Orlando

    No, it isn’t easy for me to ask for help, either, Chris, unless it’s from a family member. Going outside the immediate loop takes me out of the comfort zone.
    Hope your car is out of the hospital!

  2. Roy A Ackerman, PhD, EA

    I dunno, Chris. I am NOT an INFP. And, I rarely (never?) ask for help. Unless it’s the “management” request for folks to join in the effort.

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