Introverts Are Walking Contradictions
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As a follow-up to last week’s column:
Are You Giving Yourself Enough “Me” Time
I want to say that it MAY SEEM as if I don’t like being around people. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I don’t like being in crowds, at huge functions. Introverts tend to stand off in a corner or stand alone when faced with lots of people.
If you see someone standing by themselves at a function, then you have to make the first move. Get an introvert to talk about what makes them tick and you won’t ever hear the end. Introverts don’t enjoy small talk. They’d rather disappear then involve themselves in the inanity of what the weather is like, or how your day is going. Introverts crave deep meaning in their relationships. They may not have a plethora of friends. Several close relationships outside of family is all they really need.
Any more and they will look for a means of escape.
Those fortunate enough to break through the walls, can count on the introvert to be in their lives through anything. Introverts will lay their lives on the line for those in their small circle. Break that trust, however, and you’ll find it tremendously challenging to get it back.
Introverts, when emotionally wounded by someone, sometimes will not let the person who hurt them back in. You may not even know why. For the introvert may simply ignore your calls, may block you from reaching out. As with crowds and small talk, introverts abhor conflict. They will do just about anything to avoid it. They are uncomfortable speaking out to defend themselves when they feel they’ve been embarrassed, provoked.
They will shut down, avoid you, if you lash out at them in public. They will find that inner place in their soul where they can regroup. It may take hours for them to return to the world. So consider your words and actions carefully when you have an introvert in your life. Consider your words and actions carefully with ANYONE in your life for that matter.
Introverts are walking contradictions. On the one hand, they may seem aloof. They don’t interact well in crowds. Remove the crowd, get them one on one and you’ll see a COMPLETELY different person. Avoid small talk, find the deeper conversation and watch the introvert become almost extroverted when interacting with you. Above all, don’t attempt to remake the introvert. Do NOT expect them to become an extrovert. Accept them for who they are and you’ll have a friend for life if you so choose to.
Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.
Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying. For there truly is no end.
2 thoughts on “Introverts Are Walking Contradictions”
You describe the introvert perfectly, Chris!
Like you, I’ll be going on hiatus for much of August due to my mother’s sudden health issues. I will have to spend time at her place starting this weekend (my brother has it for now, thank goodness!), and there isn’t reliable computer service there. Would appreciate prayers!
RAAAckerman, PhD, EA
Vive la difference!