Seek out higher vibrational people, and avoid those who reflect more ego-oriented behavior patterns
Wayne Dyer has long been a muse for Wisdom and Life as can be seen from the link. As is true with any twelve step program, it is important to dismiss your old friends from your life if they contributed to why you entered a program. You don’t need people who will only drag you down, who will make it easy to slip back into patterns that brought you to the point where you didn’t like yourself, where you found yourself waking up with a hangover or worse.
The same can be said when working to improve your emotional health. The same old same old won’t work. And the more you do to improve your well being and the more you see your OLD friends you will notice their destructive behavior. As you get better and those people you associated with stay stuck in emotionally destructive patterns you will find yourself at a crossroads:
Do you stay with people because you’ve known them and they feel comfortable?
Or do you step outside your comfort zone and seek out people who are more like you now?
Think about it this way:
You made the decision to find a better way. You did that. It wasn’t easy. You survived that choice. You will surely survive without the negative people that have been your security.
Before you made the choice, you didn’t know better. You didn’t see a better life was just around the corner. These people were your friends. After all as Law of Attraction states:
We attract what we believe.
And if we surround ourselves with negativity, we sometimes choose to believe that’s what we deserve. I’ve seen this with various friends who have taken steps to better their lives. Sometimes it isn’t always easy to walk away from negative people:
–If you work with them.
–If they are part of your family.
You can use this to your advantage though. Seeing the behavior they exhibit can make it easier on you to understand that you don’t want to go back to that attitude. When you are in a negative situaution, it is important to stay positive, to stay centered any way you can. If it means not enagaging then that’s what you need to do. And as soon as you are away from that place, reach out to one of your NEW friends. Vent to them. You can’t keep that bad juju in you. It is at this time more than any other that you MUST seek out higher vibrational people.
And ALWAYS remember when one of these negative people lash out at you, it NEVER has anything to do with you. They are releasing THEIR toxins. Unfortunately, they haven’t learned how destructive their behavior is to those around them. Weak peope attack those within closest proximity. This is why it is so important to build new relationships with those in your new paradigm.
Easy to do when in a twelve step program. Not so easy when we only want to change our emotional well being. Not impossible, however. We can look for like minded people anywhere. Search Internet groups. Start talking about your new paradigm. Trust me, people are more open to Law of Attraction and Spirituality today than they ever were in the past.
Find your higher vibrational people and embrace them!
Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.
—
Chris
Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying. For there truly is no end
Martha Orlando
Excellent advice, Chris! Yes, we can’t break with old patterns unless we also leave those who would keep us there as friends.
Blessings to you!
Jean Wise
I literally would wipe off the negative vibes of someone once they left the room if it didn’t feel right. I used to laugh about it and that of course helped but think there really is some sort of energy we give off to each other – positive and negative. interesting read, Chris. Thanks for your insights