Because I’m on the introvert scale, I’d rather stay quiet than speak about inane topics.  The most uncomfortable tactics one can make to an introvert is:
Ask Why are you so quiet?
Draw an introvert into an unwanted conversation.
Influence them to join a group whether friends or family. 


Those approaches can cause an introvert to shut down even further.  


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An introvert needs time to decompress when being inundated with the noise of the world.  If someone with introvert tendencies is asked to join in with a group, whether family or friends and they politely decline, then it is important to take them at their word.


Don’t influence them to do something that goes against their paradigm. Again, you will see them pull away further. Let the introvert come to you. Give them the space they require and you’ll build a stronger relationship with them. If you feel like they have pulled away, don’t take it personally, they may just need some “ME” time.


The INFP personality and the introvert are almost one in the same. These two personalities share many of the same traits which is why they are joined together.
INFPs need lot’s of “ME” time.
INFPs tend to be creative.
INFPs don’t engage in small talk


These are all traits that introverts share. If an INFP/introvert has befriended you, you should feel fortunate, for that personality type doesn’t let many people in. They are much more comfortable with themselves. They don’t get lonely often. That word doesn’t register in their lexicon.


Treat an INFP/introvert with the lessons above and you will have a friend for life. This personality tends to remain loyal sometimes to their detriment. Once an INFP/introvert lets you in they will fight to keep you in their lives.


If you break their trust, generally they will shut you out. They will hurt and take time to process that emotional distress and it will be generally more difficult for them to open up again. INFPS and introverts are trusting when they allow you into their small circle. Don’t break that trust.


Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


3 thoughts on “Silence is Golden

  1. Martha Orlando

    As a fellow introvert, I can definitely relate, Chris. Thanks for reminding me it’s okay to be me!

  2. RAAAckerman, PhD, EA

    I’m definitely an E (interesting how that was one of the grades denoted on my report card, too!)

  3. Julie

    Yup. Totally relate. 🙂

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