Continuing my columns on my recent Near Death Experience while at Saint Raphael’s Hospital in New Haven, Connecticut today, I’ll answer a question several people have asked me since I posted the original column linked above.

If you died when you were in St. Raphael’s Hospital on or about January 27, 2019 as you told us; and came back to life and were reincarnated in accordance with your belief, why didn’t you return in a different state of existence ( a different life, person etc)?

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The above question was posed and asked in the specific manner it was written.  A few other people have asked this question in similar ways.

Here’s how I attempt to answer:
I didn’t actually stay on the other side. I believe I was sent back because it wasn’t yet my time. So my soul, my essence was put back into the body I currently am residing in.

From what I understand and believe, reincarnation happens only after you have crossed over and are not sent back (as in an NDE.)  And you are only able to return after a significant amount of time reflecting on the life you just left. When you cross the threshold of an NDE into the COMPLETE transitional period, you WILL pass through that tunnel.  I did NOT get that far. Being sent back BEFORE entering the tunnel convinces me I didn’t reach the next level.

After passing through that said tunnel you will eventually meet up with those in your soul group who have already passed on.  Your soul group is who you will reflect with about how you lived your most recent incarnation.  It isn’t until after you’ve spent time in this place that it will be decided whether or not you return or stay in the ethereal world.  The ultimate goal for a soul is to stop returning, to reach for perfection enough that you’ve done enough to achieve it.

Only God is perfect.  God doesn’t expect perfection from his children, the souls of those he has created, only that we live the best life we can and to learn from previous lives, previous incarnations.  Once we have reached what God thinks is our best last life, we can then make the decision on our own, whether to reincarnate or not. I believe the choice is left to us once we reach that place.  Until we get to our last best life, we must continue returning.

We return over and over so that we can learn from our previous lives to reach Godlike perfection.  As I said earlier, however God doesn’t expect perfection, only that we attempt to get there.

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

4 thoughts on “The Difference Between an NDE and Reincarnation

  1. Lisa

    Good explanation! Makes me think of Anita Moorjani book, Dying to Be Me for an in depth NDE explanation. Our friend P also told me about the After Life of Billy Fingers: How My Bad-Boy Brother Proved to Me There’s Life After Death by Annie Kagan which gives an interesting take on what happens after you die. If anyone whats to read these Chris has an Amazon link above on this page !

  2. Martha J Orlando

    You explained this very well, Chris. As I’ve said before, I’m glad it wasn’t your time to go!

  3. Roy A Ackerman, PhD, EA

    Since I don’t believe in reincarnation, I’ll stick with NDE. While many folks describe different experiences, they have a confluence.

  4. lynette

    These days I spend a lot of time contemplating the structure of the One-iverse, lol. A lot of things don’t fit. I abandoned my Lutheran upbringing when it didn’t make sense (what kind of God would kill billions of little children because they were born in non-Christian countries? Even at 7, I knew that was BS.) I’ve moved away from eastern religions for the same reason. I think that all spiritual teachings contain kernels of truth, but reality, as relayed to us by people who’ve had significant NDEs or STEs, is something else entirely. Throw into that mix the physicists and the fact that there is NO TIME, it makes for quite a conundrum. Oh, and there’s my newly “dead” friend Brenda reporting clearly from the other side to one of the most gifted mediums I know, Suzanne Giesemann. Brenda has said “I can be Brenda for you when you need me as that, but that’s not who I am.”

    Who she is ~ who we all are ~ is the One of Everything. The fragments of that little parochial school girl still within me shrink away from such a concept. How can it be? Only One of us here? And what (gasp!) does that mean?

    As I said, fascinating. And I love the exploration and reading of the experiences of others. The greatest gift I’ve experienced in this no-time seemingly endless human life has been the certainty that we continue beyond ceasing to breathe. It’s not possible to do otherwise, and with that, all fear, all worry, all distress about what comes after simply washes away.

    Are you familiar with Julia Assante? I’m reading “The Last Frontier” right now. She has some really interesting things to say about the reincarnation/no time conundrum. And she explains those occasional terrifying NDEs we hear about. As I’ve only in the last seven years fully recovered from the trauma of being indoctrinated with the concept of hell, her explanation is a gift. Keep writing! Your work is fabulous!

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