How many times in your life have you run across someone and knew instantly that you’d be lifelong friends?


At first sight usually connotes Love.  In this instance, I’m using the phrase to reflect meeting someone and knowing immediately that you’d be lifelong friends.  Has it ever happened to you?  

Image from:
Pixabay (Words, my own.)

It has with me:







Happened in September 1989.  Still can’t believe it will be thirty years
Happened in January 1992 (The night of the first gulf war.)
Happened in 1993-1994 (Don’t recall the EXACT time.)
Happened in July 2008


In all four cases, I KNEW on a gut level.  I’m going off The Deep End again, going esoteric, ethereal.  In both cases, I’m convinced these people are in my soul group.  The concept for soul groups came from a book called Journey of SoulsIt’s the first time I came across the idea, and I was able to sew into the fabric of my worldview seamlessly.  If you read the soul group link you’ll get a feel for what it means to me. 


My radar is pretty much spot on.  I can typically tell within a few minutes of meeting someone for the first time whether we’ll be friends, acquaintances or whether we’ll ever see each other again.  The lifelong friends thing though? That’s only happened a few times. But each time, I KNEW immediately.

–Thirty years ago I was in a classroom.
–1992 I waited in RJ Julia’s downstairs.
–1993-1994 I sat in a coffee shop (The Land of Misfit Toys)  That’s a little inside joke.
–July 2008 I was taking pictures of the Madison Connecticut 4th of July Parade.


Four separate cases each connected by a knowledge deep in my soul that these people would be instrumental in my life.  In all these instances these people still are vastly important to my well-being.


These four or five people have been the most important friends I’ve made and from the MOMENT I saw them I KNEW we’d be friends.  I’m fortunate to call these people my friends. They know who they are without my calling out their names.


Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


2 thoughts on “At First Sight

  1. Martha J Orlando

    You truly have an insightful gift, Chris. Yes, there are people who come to my mind as “soul travelers,” but I don’t think I’m as aware of this as you are, that’s for sure.

  2. Roy A Ackerman, PhD, EA

    I know who will be a friend right off. But, a life-long, best friend- that takes way more time to discern.

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